This
week there was a bridal shower at work for a fellow co-worker. The co-worker has been living with the man for
12 years and will be married by the government. Prior to all of this going down
she had relayed to me that the man she lived with was baptized and raised
Catholic up until his father passed away (which occurred when he was an adult).
After that, he fell away from his faith. I also understood that he was married
before but it wasn’t clarified to me whether it was by law or in the Catholic
Church (I am leaning towards the former). So, do I dismiss Christ raising marriage to a
sacrament and attend or back away from the event?
As
you can see from the scenario presented above- I can’t attend the shower. I discussed
with another Catholic co-worker who couldn’t seem to take courage and not
attend even though she could see the implications. I told one other co-worker
who is not Catholic and was very surprised at the negative reaction. She went
on and on about “religion and rules” and threw out some nasty remarks when I
also refused to sign the card.
Now,
do you want to know the irony? We have a co-worker who is Jehovah Witness and
does not participate in any celebrations throughout the year. Do you think he
has ever received one negative comment? Nope- not one! In fact, accommodations
have been made to change the Christmas party to “holiday” and birthday
celebrations to “random pot luck”.